People seek therapy for many reasons.

Some people want a higher quality of life and know exactly what that means to them. Some may not be entirely sure what that looks like, but can imagine better moods, less overthinking, less anxiety, self-acceptance with continued growth and evolution, and happier and more tranquil relationships.

For others, having a higher quality of life means having a fulfilling job and career, leaving behind old mental habits that you recognize as counterproductive but have struggled to discard, and gaining meaningful interactions with others.

You may already know what's troubling you, or you may not. Perhaps you've been in counseling previously, or you're feeling stuck and overwhelmed – struggling to keep it together after losing a relationship, person, job, or other important aspect of your life.

The problem might be that you worry about a meaningful relationship in your family or romantic life or feel frustrated because you know the behavior or lifestyle changes you want but can't make them stick.

Therapy is going to surprise you in awesome ways.

I don't put people or problems in boxes.

Here, you'll experience a uniquely powerful balance of compassion, empathy, humor, intellect, objectivity, and practical-tactical problem-solving that fit the unique factors bringing you in to try therapy. And let's emphasize humor.

Have you been avoiding giving therapy a try because it sounds like an exhausting trudge through the last twenty to forty years? If so, you're definitely not alone in that!

I don't believe in "exhausting trudge" therapy. I do believe in therapy that is energizing and hopeful, and that helps you look at the parts of your life that are pertinent to your current goals in your relationships with yourself and others, your work life, your parenting, your passions, and your quality of life.

Experience a different kind of acceptance.

You probably have a short-to-very-long list of things about yourself that frustrate you - maybe you even use the word "hate." You may find it aggravating when people start talking about self-compassion because it sounds suspicious to you, like endorsing a pity party or letting yourself off the hook for "bad" or "unhealthy" behaviors that you want more than anything to make stop happening or go away.

Therapy can change how you relate to yourself in unimaginably powerful ways. You'll learn how to be gentle with yourself and accepting.

Learning alternatives to fighting, rejecting, or suppressing your history, experiences, habits, and patterns is the first step to seeing, doing, and experiencing things differently.

Therapy that energizes your growth.

I want you to leave every one of our sessions with tools you can use as well as deeper "food for thought" to keep your healing and growth momentum going.

You'll move through what may seem insurmountable, intractable thinking and behavior patterns with lightness and a sense that you can make meaningful changes.

Here's the one overarching theme to therapy with me.

The great news is that our issues are not to be "gotten over." They're not to be beaten, bested, tamed, fought, gotten past, won, put to rest, or left in the dust.

Therapy is not supposed to help you do any of these things.

Then what the hell is therapy for?

Here's a secret.

If you think about it, every time you've tried to "get over" something, it's been an exercise in frustration and then double or triple frustration about your inability to "get over" it. Then, you feel frustrated, sad, angry, depressed, embarrassed, and maybe even ashamed that you can't "get over" the thing you think you must "get over" to have a great life.

Maybe you feel hopeless and too stuck to ever have a great life.

A great life isn't about "getting over" issues so that you can start doing things differently. Instead, a great life is learning to have a compassionate, powerful, and accepting relationship with your problems so they don't weigh you down.

Having a great life is closer than you can imagine with valuable insight and actionable strategies for living. You can wake up in the very near future and realize that without any grueling process to "get over it," the issues dragging you down before have become irrelevant and you're on to the life you want.