And that's before we talk about how overwhelming the world around us can be.
Family, career, parenting, current and past relationships, personal challenges and changes, national and global events, and patterns of behavior from our families of origin or our histories that we recognize as counterproductive but still can't seem to stop doing are just a few of the experiences that can overwhelm us.
Individual therapy is a powerful tool for addressing short or long-term concerns. Together, we can get you the clarity you need to really understand the core of what's troubling you and develop sustainable, practical tools for making your life better.
Whatever is bothering you—and whether it's bothering you a little or a lot—therapy is a safe, non-judgmental, and down-to-earth space to explore your experience, clarify your direction, and gently move your forward in living an awesome life.
A good individual therapist moves at the pace that is helpful to you in your unique discovery or healing process. We may find that they concern bringing you in has significant ties to other parts of your life or your past, but it's up to you to decide if exploring that history is part of the work you want to do.
When you've decided to get therapy, your goals direct the course of our work together.
You might be looking for a better understanding of what's keeping you from a healthy and fulfilling life, relationship, or career. Maybe you want an individual therapist as an impartial yet compassionate and knowledgeable feedback regarding stressors, life decisions, or a relationship crossroad.
Or maybe you are thinking about individual therapy because you want to understand why you have unhelpful thinking pattern, beliefs, and behaviors that inhibit your growth and success in your work, your home, and your relationships. You want to really get to the bottom of why you do what you do—when you know it's unhelpful or even self-sabotage—and learn realistic and meaningful change strategies.
You are the best judge of what you need out of individual therapy, and when you've gotten it.
I love that often, after doing therapy for a while my clients often go out into the world to practice their learnings and skills, and then a month, six months, a year, or two years later they reach out to say something new has come up (or something old has resurfaced) and they'd like to have a few more sessions. And then they go back out into the world, and then a month, six months, or two years pass . . . therapy is there for you when you need it, for as long or as briefly as you need it.
Individual therapy can help clients move through all kinds of tough life stages, issues, experiences, and events.
Some of these issues include:
Self-defeating behavior patterns
Frustration
Family relationship ruptures
Romantic/intimate partner challenges
Work relationship difficulties
Career challenges
Uncertainty about life direction or priorities
Grief/loss related to people, dreams, opportunities
Anger management difficulties
Effective communication
Relationship anxiety
Relationship skills
Emotional regulation
Some of the many stage-of-life challenges therapy can help with include:
Changes in health
A move
A loss
A transition
Individual therapy is a proven treatment for mental health concerns including:
Depression
Anxiety
Anger
Social Anxiety
Stress
Adjustment Disorders
Good individual therapy can help you figure out the parts of your life—maybe even ones you don't realize are pain points—that are contributing to experiences like depression and anxiety, and then equip you with the tools to move forward and maintain your health and happiness.
The goal of individual therapy is to help you meaningfully address the parts of your life that aren't serving you, are causing you distress, or Individual therapy will help you have a better understanding of your problems, how to change your relationship to them, and how to effectively cope so that you can start living fully even when tough stuff is happening.
Another important benefit of individual therapy is that you'll learn to manage your most difficult emotions in constructive ways, without "stuffing" them or "shutting down." If you're a person who often feels like your emotional reactions get the best of you and lead to damaging behaviors and negative consequences, therapy is an awesome vehicle for learning skills that get your needs met and keep you in a constructive place with other people, at the same time.
Individual therapy is effective because an individual therapist can help you develop insight, skills and strategies that are specifically geared to the uniqueness of your personal history, temperament, life stage, and goals. An individual therapist will be able to help you pinpoint the parts of your history that are relevant to the current problems that you want to solve, discover how to truly resolve or heal those historical experiences in the present, and learn new coping skills that will enable you to have a better experience every single day and build the life you want.
Individual therapists are highly trained and experienced. They have professional expertise not only in different kinds of therapy for approaching they many different issues you might want to address in therapy, but also in providing very nuanced, ongoing assessment of clients' change process and calibrating the therapy journey to align most helpfully with the client's progress.
Unlike your social circle, an individual therapist is impartial. "Impartial" doesn't mean uncaring . . . individual therapists care deeply about clients' success in reaching their goals. When you talk to your individual therapist about what's going on, you're going to get truly impartial feedback from a person who is invested in your well-being and the future you want, but without the complications of being actually in your life like a friend or family member.
Many people from all ages and backgrounds find that having a personal therapist for when they feel like they need a few sessions (or a bunch of sessions) is an incredibly positive, powerful, and truly helpful tool for having a better life.
In therapy you can expect:
Compassion, humor, and nonjudgement
Responsiveness to your unique needs
A safe, supportive environment
Honest, thoughtful feedback
Approaches with demonstrated effectiveness
Gentle challenging of assumptions
Many people find that they're able to use a healthy lifestyle including exercise, relaxation, healthful food, a spiritual practice, and friend, family, and colleague support to help them cope with life stressors, events, and tough emotions. And many people who have some or all of those coping mechanisms in place still find that therapy provides a different and invaluable kind of help in dealing life's twists, turns, and tragedies. Good therapy can provide you with the opportunity to build invaluable insight and life skills that are unique to the therapy experience and will serve you for the rest of your life.
I am licensed and work with clients in Colorado, Massachusetts, Maryland, Nebraska, Nevada, and Rhode Island via a secure telehealth platform that is HIPPA compliant and easy to use from any desktop, laptop, or mobile device.